Yappin’ for Health
I’m not the quietest kid on the block. In high school, I distinctively remember certain teachers not liking me because of, what I would call, my boisterous personality. Some might not have described me so gently, but I prefer to be wonderfully naïve to my most likely obnoxious behavior at times. I’ve just always had a lot to say and lacked the patience to wait my turn to speak. I guess that’s why I am a writer…I can write and write and write and wait for nothing! It’s funny how we very purposefully choose career paths…
Anyway, back to the health. I have talked in previous posts about the health in silence; the insights that are gained when we refrain from speech. But today, after an email conversation with one of my closest friends, I discovered the Unexpected Health voiced through the lips…of a yapper.
Yes, yapping (what my mom and I call ‘flapping our gums’, aka talking) contains a mouthful of Unexpected Health. Now of course, the immediate depiction of healthFUL yapping would be talk therapy…very healthy. Also, talking situations through with friends and loved ones can alleviate misunderstandings. But the Unexpected Health in flappin’ your gums is that the more you have told your story to those around you, the greater reflection you will receive from others. Let me explain…
Today, I needed to ‘bend the ear’ of my friend. My amazing friend, who has tirelessly listened to (or read about) my endless life stories, adventures, heart bursts and breaks, was again at the receiving end of my yapping (actually, typing). But what I found so healthFUL–and helpFUL–was not only the words of encouragement she gave me; she knew my ‘story.’ This friend has been through many ups and downs in my life. And because I am unable to keep quiet about my feelings, my thoughts, and my soapbox beliefs, she knows how to relate to me. She can bring up things I have said in the past; she can mirror to me what she has seen and heard…and having a friend hold a mirror to show YOU to YOU is healthy.
I am not proposing that we all become self-indulged excessive talkers; nobody wants to be around someone like that! But, I do find that it is important–actually essential–to open up. Keeping a lid on your emotions helps no one, especially yourself. When we shut people out, we are taking away the opportunity for others to show up for us; to be a mirror when we need to see ourselves. So the next time you feel the need to talk but don’t want to be a burden to your loved ones, shut up that voice in your head and open your mouth and speak. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by the response. -Until tomorrow, Jaime
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